When a woman loses a pregnancy there can be great grief and little support out there.
What do I mean?
A profound thing happens but often there are not clear reasons; mostly statistics for how often this happens; 25 per cent of the time, they say. It is not considered all that important in some ways.
The body or some circumstance has somehow made a decision to abort.
The mother can grieve but there is not a body of deep understanding; like a strange little secret about the mystery being cast out somehow.
No religious ceremony.
No burial
No Grave
No poetry to read
Few people to talk to…
No time off work
No money
No presents
Just no hopes anymore.
When a woman makes that decision,
In the situation of needing to do what
Nature does 25 per cent of the time;
Make a decision maybe once or twice in a lifetime
Then still there is no poetry to read
No service
No support
No clean path.
So these women have a lot in common in one way and so does the slave woman who is impregnated or the girl on her first date or a women in a myriad of situations like this who might still wonder what the child might have looked like or acted like.
Natural curiosity.
Natural thoughts.
Like the pain of lost love
Or the pain of losing anything
Or the relief.
We need to control our bodies
Like how our hands make something.
How we decide to be ourselves.
Or see our lives like falling leafs
And we learn to let other people just be themselves and not try to change them;
Turns out we pretty much can't anyway.
No matter how hard we try
Just almost impossible.
So it appears that life is about
Choices; for all of us, even,
Sometimes really really impossibly
Tough ones.
Still about probabilities and compromises,
Still about survival, just as our natural bodies seem to make tough decisions based on complicated calculus, so we, the owners of our bodies do the same and we attempt to Manage.
The unspeakable cruelty of a misogynist's
Prying into their bodies and lives to ascertain that perhaps the woman ingested a pill is beyond reproach and yet, this is the world we find ourselves in;
Where a woman cowers while a man who needs a free vasectomy gloats about his concern for life.
Shame on them; those men and their patriarchal religions.
A woman should never ever ever be under the thumb of a man or have a man pry into their lives and bodies.
Period.
This must stop and most of the world knows it, except for the uneducated, fanatics.
Shame on them; hypocrites as they send their tender children off to war to die in their places.
They open up the grief and pain and stomp around by suggesting they will codify their dominance and intrusion.
The pain
Cowards and true murderers in fact!
Dogs in mangers.
You who have no tools to be a mother;
Back off!
